The Character of Discretion

Character Leadership - The Character of Discretion

“Be not too tame neither, but let your own discretion be your tutor. Suit the action to the word, the word to the action, with this special observance, that you o'erstep not the modesty of nature. "      – William Shakespeare

Definition:  Knowing how to avoid embarrassment or distress by recognizing and avoiding undesirable words, actions and attitude.

Carelessness, Recklessness, Impulsiveness and a Lack of Concern are the opposites of discretion. These negative traits will make us fail to see others as important or worth our effort to respond to them in a tactful and good relational way. Discretion keeps us focus on sound judgment, giving serious attention and thought to what is going on around us. We can then choose our words wisely, have a positive attitude, and carry out our actions carefully to model goodness and righteousness for any given situation, thus avoiding words and actions that could result in adverse consequence.

The character of discretion enables us to recognize and avoid the wrong attitudes that create undesirable words, actions, etc., that are condescending to others and can bring negative relationship consequences. To put discretion in action, as Character Leaders, we must remember to think before we speak, and be careful not to say things that could hurt someone. We must also strive to avoid bad influences and questionable activities, as they will manipulate us, and as garbage is poured in our minds, garbage comes out in our words and deeds. When we consider our words carefully before we speak, we will make an impression that will ensure that others will listen to what we have to say in future.

Reflection:

Ask yourself; “Do I have discretion when I speak?” We have to consider our words carefully before we speak. When we are criticized, we must separate what is being said from how it is said. There may be a lesson to be learnt that may benefit us if we do this. If we constantly adjust our behavior to the criticism we will become better person and earn the respect and trust of others.

As Character leaders, we must extend ourselves to other people with discretion and what flows out of discretion are improved relationships and wisdom to make wise choices and decisions. Everyone has his /her own value. Discretion allows us to see the values in others so instead of teasing and making fun; we encourage and befriend those we think are different from us. This is good manners and to have good manners is to be considerate towards others. It also shows that our respect for others is translated into action.